Considering Collars

Probably the single most recognized symbol of dom/sub relationships. People watching porn will usually think of some hot chic being walked on a leash, walking on all fours. Or, getting tugged towards some guys cock or being pulled on during sex. The symbolism of collars go much deeper than that. There are also many variations of collars.

Collars are worn by submissives and generally convey ownership and control. Some are only used during sex while others are worn for other occasions. Ownership can be temporary or permanent. But the very fundamental is that sub is under someone's control. Here are some of the most know types of collars and symbolism:

• Consideration Collar - It means exactly as it sounds. One wearing one would be under consideration to be someone's sub. It would be the first step to making things more permanent.
• Training Collar - The next step in a dom/sub relationship would be training. These are generally worn indicating the sub is in training.
• Protection Collar - The protection collar means a sub is being protected by a dominate. The sub belongs to that dom. These are generally worn in group settings. This is telling other doms that this sub is off limits.
• Day Collars - These are generally worn in public. These are for those that wish to be collared and owned always. These are often some kind of jewelry or maybe even a choker. This way they're not answering questions in public.
• Permanent Collar - It means exactly that. As symbolic as a wedding ring. It's exclusive ownership. They're usually not taken off unless for another collar. They can be like Day Collars as in jewelry like a necklace, anklet or bracelet.
• Play Collar - Used for sex and/or foreplay. They often have a ring to attach to a leash or be bound to something. Generally used for control of the sub. Pulled around or even bound on a piece of furniture so the sub cannot move.
• Posture Collar - Long collars that cover most of the neck. They usually restrict head and neck motion.

All of these collars basically reflect ownership. That's what the collar is about. Submitting to someone. If collars are to ownership, then locks are for servitude. Meaning the dom must take off the collar. The sub generally carries or holds the key in some way. They are the only one allowed to take the collar off. You can lock most collars if constructed properly.

In some dom/sub relationships, the sub is always wearing a collar. They may exchange them for another. But are generally wearing one. They may wear a Day or Permanent Collar. Then change it out for a play collar. Or, a different collar for another occasion.

 

Collars are a more meaningful way to assert control and the structure of a dom/sub relationship. It's up to each couple to determine what is right for them. Its what you're both comfortable with. I highly recommend playing with Play Collars. It will help you determine your threshold for bondage and control in bed. It can be extremely excited for both the dominate and submissive. Make it your own. Explore it, enjoy it, and hopefully it improves your relationship and/or sex.