It's Your Journey
Some people have to follow direction to get to a path, and you can find rules and all kinds of information to tell you how your dom/sub relationship should be. But, I don't think that's how it should be. You should find your own journey. That works for you and your partner if you have one. I'm a firm believe that not everyone can be a dom or a sub. Some aren't comfortable with taking or relieving control. You should know yourself well when trying to be in a dom/sub relationship. Because forcing anything will not work.
There are two times you can decide your one of the either. Its either when you're single or you're already with somebody. If your single, it will allow you to discover yourself and eventually determine what kind of partner you want. You need to understand your personality and your sexual desires. To determine if you're dominate or submissive. Then also determine at what level. Not everyone can take full or relinquish full control and be comfortable.
If you're already in a relationship, it shouldn't take long to determine who is dominate and who is submissive. The complicated part is understanding yourself and understanding your partner at the same time. The upside though is if you do this openly and together, your dom/sub relationship will be excited and strong. It helps to explain what you learn about yourself to your partner. Both the dynamics and the sex. Openness is the best way to go about this. There can be so much to learn here, about yourself and your partner.
The very fundamentals of a dom/sub relationship is that someone is in control. The submissive generally pleases, serves, and worships her dom. Then in turn the dominate protects, guides, and provides for his sub. Of coarse the roles can be reversed. Meaning gender doesn't determine roles. But that's the very foundation of a dom/sub relationship.
What's up to you and your partner if you're with one, is at what extent. Here are some things to consider:
I believe love is also one of the most important aspects. It takes dedication in a long term dom/sub relationship. Think of a marriage. But with maybe more structure and definitions of roles. Being completely dedicated, determined, and understanding each other work very well for a dom and sub.
This should give you some things to think about. You should be having conversations with your partner if you're with one. Discussing what your desires are, your needs, your wants, and what you want to get from this journey. I believe it can be one of the best, healthy relationships I think you could be in. It gives order, comfort, definition, clarity, understanding, trust, love, and amazing sex. Make it your own.
There are two times you can decide your one of the either. Its either when you're single or you're already with somebody. If your single, it will allow you to discover yourself and eventually determine what kind of partner you want. You need to understand your personality and your sexual desires. To determine if you're dominate or submissive. Then also determine at what level. Not everyone can take full or relinquish full control and be comfortable.
If you're already in a relationship, it shouldn't take long to determine who is dominate and who is submissive. The complicated part is understanding yourself and understanding your partner at the same time. The upside though is if you do this openly and together, your dom/sub relationship will be excited and strong. It helps to explain what you learn about yourself to your partner. Both the dynamics and the sex. Openness is the best way to go about this. There can be so much to learn here, about yourself and your partner.
The very fundamentals of a dom/sub relationship is that someone is in control. The submissive generally pleases, serves, and worships her dom. Then in turn the dominate protects, guides, and provides for his sub. Of coarse the roles can be reversed. Meaning gender doesn't determine roles. But that's the very foundation of a dom/sub relationship.
What's up to you and your partner if you're with one, is at what extent. Here are some things to consider:
- Can you take control in bed or submit fully?
- Can you give or take orders?
- Are you comfortable talking during sex? Dirty.....
- Can you tell her to suck your dick? Would she respond to such a command?
- Can you tell her to cum? And her not cum until she's told?
- Can you choke her, pin her, or maneuver her around? Is she okay with it?
- Can she wear a collar? Can you wield a leash?
- Do you like pet names? Like Daddy, Sir, Master, Kitten, Little, Slave, Slut?
- Do you like role play?
- Would you like tying her down? Would she be comfortable with it?
- Can you tell her what to do outside the bedroom? Will she listen?
- Can you take care of her? Does she need taken care of?
- Do you want to take turns in control? This is known as a "switch". Exactly what it sounds like.
- Do you want to own her? Does she want to be owned?
- Can you earn her trust? Will she trust you?
I believe love is also one of the most important aspects. It takes dedication in a long term dom/sub relationship. Think of a marriage. But with maybe more structure and definitions of roles. Being completely dedicated, determined, and understanding each other work very well for a dom and sub.
This should give you some things to think about. You should be having conversations with your partner if you're with one. Discussing what your desires are, your needs, your wants, and what you want to get from this journey. I believe it can be one of the best, healthy relationships I think you could be in. It gives order, comfort, definition, clarity, understanding, trust, love, and amazing sex. Make it your own.
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